So What’s Stopping You?

The prisoner,burden

Have you ever stopped to take inventory or reflect on where you currently are in life? Many emotions may arise during this process but it is one of the most beneficial things you could do for yourself IF you truly want to be successful. One of my favorite quotes says “It is easy to be negative about past mistakes and unhappiness, but it is much more healing to look at ourselves and our past in the light of experience, acceptance and growth.” One of the most difficult things in life is to deal with the past, accept what has happened and GROW FORWARD in spite of it.

It is part of the human mind to naturally want to focus on negative situations or circumstances we have previously experienced. Some of you may have family members that continuously identify you with your past and refuse to see the person you are becoming or can be. Then there are others who are allowing the space between their ears, to get the best of them. I want to remind you that everything you’ve been through is DIRECTLY connected to your purpose. At the end of the day, what you BELIEVE and what you THINK is what will manifest! If you BELIEVE you are unworthy of being successful or having successful relationships, then that is what you will see take place…BUT if you know in your heart and walk in the truth that you are worthy of love, healthy relationships and living life fearlessly..Then that is exactly what will manifest!

No one will make you want more for yourself.

No one will make you change your thinking.

No one will make you step out from the norm and follow your dreams.

The choice has been and will always be yours!


Birthday Thoughts


Tomorrow is my birthday and I couldn’t feel more blessed than I do right now. There’s so many lessons I’ve learned so far but the most important things that resonate with me are to not be so hard on yourself. Take everything one day at a time and guess what, if you mess up, you can always start over.

Love yourself. Truly love who you are in the moment and don’t settle for mediocrity. Don’t dwell on the things that you can’t change. Focus all of your energy on being a light of encouragement to others. We’re all facing some kind of obstacle.

Finally never be ashamed of your story and of your past. The past is not who you are…But whether good or the not so good days, it’s helped you become the amazing person that you are today ❤️


I Don’t Know What I’m Worth Anymore

I Don’t Know What I’m Worth Anymore


Through all of the airbrushed, lightened and photoshopped pictures, it can get pretty cloudy and frustrating for some women to fully embrace who God has called them to be. Let’s be honest, the world has become overly obsessed with unrealistic ideas of what they think a woman should look like or even the way she should carry herself. If we’re truly honest ladies we’ve all been there…Unsure if we’re enough, who will love us and all of our flaws or should we settle for “Fool or Mr. No Good” because we don’t want to be lonely. Then we start to unfairly compare ourselves to Beyonce, Kim Kardashian and the like because that’s what seems to draw every man’s attention, all the while not realizing that we’re not comparing ourselves to those ladies at all…We’re actually comparing ourselves to their representative. That’s right! A FALSE idea of who the world thinks that they are.

I try not to pay too much attention to what’s on TV nowadays but the other day I was watching the Billboard Awards and I couldn’t help but see a trend that has become un-shockingly numb to most of our population. I saw flawless makeup, beautiful hairstyles, memorable performances and I also witnessed some questionable fashion statements. I was actually having a conversation with my grandmother at the time and she couldn’t believe some of the stuff she was seeing either. Ok, I get it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be beautiful or wear a fashionable dress but when did it become ok to wear hardly anything in public? My grandmother raised me to always leave something to the imagination and leave some things for your husband’s eyes only. Sure, I may be a little old fashioned but I still think those same morals can be applied in this era.

Whoever is reading this, I just want you to know that you don’t have to lessen your value in order to be beautiful. You don’t have to post explicit pictures of yourself all over social media to gain the attention of people you’re probably never going to personally meet and you definitely don’t have to sleep with someone to prove that you’re enough. LISTEN TO ME! YOU ARE ALWAYS ENOUGH! You’re GORGEOUS, ONE OF A KIND and ROYALTY. You’re worth is not based off of how many followers you have on Instagram or Twitter. You’re UNIQUE, SMART and in spite of what you’ve been told, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. Don’t ever allow anyone including yourself, to fill your head with thoughts of doubt.










De’Andrea xo

Falling Back in Love with the Holy Spirit


If we’re all honest with ourselves, we can say that in the past we’ve pushed away from God and His will for our lives. I remember the times when I wasn’t trying to hear anything God was saying in regards to what He wanted for my life. Those were days full of much frustration, anxiousness and bitterness. Sure, at the time I was thinking that I knew what was best, but in all actuality I didn’t. How could God ever know exactly what I was feeling and going through? He knew nothing about being abandoned, brokenhearted, lied on, stabbed in the back by those that were closest to me and being used for someone else’s satisfaction or selfish desires…BUT God did know how all of that felt and so much more. I think every now and then we forget just how much our heartbeat matches that of our Father’s.

So during this time of reconciliation with Jesus, I began asking myself “how did I get here?” I know we’ve all been there. That’s always how sin starts off. We begin flirting with the idea and before we know it we’re deep off into a cycle of desperation and recklessness. Sure we may think that we’re living the life now but in reality we’re COMMITTING SPIRITUAL SUICIDE. Many things can cause us to push away from God and chase our own selfish cravings. Trying to fit in with the world and not realizing we were created to be set apart is a definite way of merely existing and not living to your full potential. Just because we were made to be set apart doesn’t mean we have to have a boring life. So many people think that if someone is saved, that means their life has to be bland, dull and boring when that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Another thing that can cause us to push away from God is disconnecting from Him and not spending time communicating and being in fellowship with our Father on a daily basis. Some people think that it’s not necessary to have that quiet time every day or it’s only needed when they come against hard times. I was one of those people. I wasn’t being disciplined in making sure that I kept God number one in my life or I would only communicate with Him when I was praying over my meals for the day. Wow, how many of us have been there? By doing that, we allow ourselves to become vulnerable to the things of this world. Something that has always stuck with me throughout the years is that WHATEVER YOU FEED WILL GROW. A farmer doesn’t plant potatoes and then later on expect for his harvest to be grapes. No, he plants exactly what he desires his harvest to be. The same goes for us. So if all you’re doing is watching shows that glamorize adultery, murder, fornication, foul language…Then that’s exactly what you’re PLANTING and NOURISHING into your spirit. If all you’re doing is listening to music that idolizes money, violence, sex, disrespecting women and ourselves as a people…Again, that’s exactly what will harvest in your own life.

We have to be wise about our relationships and make sure that we’re not attaching ourselves with distractions and toxic relationships rather than divine connections. I’m not saying that every relationship or friendship will be peachy perfect but we all know when we’re linked to someone or something that we shouldn’t be. We also know when The Holy Spirit is pulling us away from what could be detrimental to our purpose. So the question is do you know if you’re currently attached to something or someone that you know isn’t of a great benefit to your life and purpose? If so, it’s time to face the music of reality and truly figure out if you want to continue to commit spiritual suicide or if you want more for your life. I believe that God has so much more for you than what your current circumstances are telling you. I may not know what you’re going through right now but I do know that everything that you could ever need or want is found in Jesus. It doesn’t matter if it’s depression, low self-esteem, heartbreak, abandonment, struggling with forgiving yourself or someone else, a marriage that may be going through a challenging season right now, anxious thoughts, financial strain, WHATEVER IT IS…The answer is Jesus.

You’ve waited long enough. It’s time to repent, uproot and address those toxic emotions from the past, cut off whoever or whatever it is that’s aiding in keeping you stagnant and truly chase after God.

Father, we just want to say thank You for just being who You are. Thank You for loving us in spite of the times when we didn’t love ourselves. Thank you for the forgiveness and freedom that we have in You. Right now I come praying for your child. You know their situation and you know what they are in need of today. Dad they want to get right with you. They want more of you. So give them Your courage and strength to walk away from anything that’s not a direct reflection of You. Mend their brokenness and make them whole in You. Remind your child how much You love them and all that You see in them. That they are not their past! Their value is not dependent upon what anyone else thinks but their worth is in You and who You say they are. Let them know that there’s nothing they could ever do to make You love them any less. Let them feel Your presence right now as you fill their heart with Your love, joy and peace. Help your child to walk in the boldness and authority that You’ve given them. Remind them that right now in this moment, whatever they were holding onto, You’ve wiped the slate clean. Today is a new beginning in You! A fresh start. In Jesus name, Amen!

De’Andrea xo




LIFE…It can be quite challenging at times to cling on to hope when everything in the world is telling you to do the exact opposite. For some reason, it has become extremely convenient for us to give up and throw in the towel when the unexpected emerges in our lives. People are running in the opposite direction of their dreams of having a fulfilling life due to fear or the opinions of others. Then there are others who have given up on the idea of living an abundant life because somehow things didn’t transpire the way they thought it should have or the timing didn’t line up with their desires. So what do you do? How do you get out of the funk and frustration of being stagnant so you can live life with passion and purpose?


GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY AND REFOCUS-Sounds so simple doesn’t it? However, many of us struggle with the sugar-coated reality of our own stubbornness and casual mindsets of “oh it will get done when it gets done.” No, it will get done when you put some action to your goals. There’s a quote by Antoine de Saint which states that “a goal without a plan is just a wish.”

James 2:14-17 (MSG) says “Dear friends, do you think you’ll get anywhere in this if you learn all the right words but never do anything? Does merely talking about faith indicate that a person really has it? For instance, you come upon an old friend dressed in rags and half-starved and say, “Good morning, friend! Be clothed in Christ! Be filled with the Holy Spirit!” and walk off without providing so much as a coat or a cup of soup—where does that get you? Isn’t it obvious that God-talk without God-acts is outrageous nonsense?”  Take some time to clear out the clutter, whether that is physically, emotionally or spiritually; it must be done in order to successfully move forward.



How many of us can admit that we’ve bullied ourselves with toxic self-talk and thinking? It’s one thing to say that you don’t entertain the company of certain people because of their negative mindsets and behavior but have you taken inventory over your own thoughts lately? What seeds are you planting in your life and the lives of others? What do you spend your time listening to, reading and watching?

It has been said that we produce up to 50,000 thoughts in a day. What surprises many is that with some of us, out of those 50,000 thoughts, 80% of those are negative. As a believer, it is important to know that all of those negative thoughts (satan’s lies) have no truth to them and in fact, they are an exact opposite of God’s truth and promises for your life. So how do you cut off negative thinking before it takes root in your life? The first step is to shut down any and all intruding toxic thoughts as soon as they come to mind and replace them with the promises of God. God’s word says

For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them].” (Philippians 4:8 AMP) Here is another translation of that same verse. “Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.” (MSG)

How powerful is that scripture! Once you have redirected your thoughts to God’s promises, the next step will automatically come naturally.  Know who you are and Whose you are. When you know who you are in Christ, you leave no room for the enemy to disturb your thoughts. Sometimes we can get comfortable in our walk that we tend to forget the power in the truth of God being our Father and that same power from thousands of years ago is STILL just as powerful today.


KEEP LOOKING FORWARD-I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me. Friends, don’t get me wrong: By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward—to Jesus. I’m off and running and I’m not turning back. (Philippians 3:12-14)

We all know that distractions will come but it’s how you handle those distractions that make all the difference. Yes, things will be thrown in your path; that comes with the journey of life but always try to have a positive outlook from a not so great situation and continue looking forward to all that God has for you. Remember, the choice is yours. Your current circumstance does not have to define your outcome.


De’Andrea xo


A Moment Of Reflection

This is coming from a place of love. Beloveds, do you know how much GOD loves you? How much He truly adores you? When was the last time you actually stopped to reflect, not on man’s love BUT on the Father’s love? How deep and endless His love is for you.

I see so many hearts that are broken. Broken in such a way that they cover up their hurt with many illusions. From painting a picture of what they think perfection is, half naked pictures, choosing to use ignorant words (including profanity) towards themselves and others..Even posting pictures of themselves with money, cars (material things) that serve of no purpose but to boost their ego momentarily which in turn hinders their growth in the long run.

Never live your life trying to be something and someone that you’re not. No matter who you are or where you are, your purpose is life changing and someone’s deliverance, breakthrough and yes for some, walking into their purpose is connected with you boldly living out YOUR purpose. I encourage you to stop and reflect on the validation that you have through Jesus Christ and His unwavering love for you!

De’Andrea xo