When was the last time you dated with a purpose? Sure you have to get to know someone and your initial connection may be based simply off of looks or a mutual interest BUT WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE INITIAL ATTRACTION ISN’T ENOUGH? What do you do when you notice that the only thing that person is inviting in your life is drama or just an unexplainable void. Do you continue to pursue what “might” be the potential of a person or do you recognize the reality of the situation and go your separate ways?
The other day I was thinking about why our society is so focused on staying up to date with the latest fashion and technology however people are still dating and dealing with their own lives carelessly. When did we reach a point to where we value material things more than we do our own wellbeing? Why do some people date haphazardly? Why waste time when it comes to dating someone once you realize that the connection is toxic? Is it because there are feelings of loneliness and you long for companionship no matter what values you might be compromising or is it because you just have to have someone in your space or be in a relationship no matter the circumstance?
I ask these questions not to point the finger but for you to reflect on your own life and ask yourself is this something that you can relate to. As I always say, know your worth and don’t settle out of the fear of being by yourself. If you are single, use this time to find your purpose and go after it! If you are dating someone and you know they aren’t the one for you, don’t string them along. Be honest with them and be honest with yourself and let them know how you feel. You don’t want to waste your time or theirs.