Although being in a season of singleness is undeniably a blessing, it can also have its many challenges. From the numerous wedding invitations to the baby shower invites, one just might ask the question “when will it be my turn?” Through my own season of singleness, I have learned that waiting for what God has for me is far better than trying to orchestrate something myself. Reaching this point was not an overnight process. I had my moments, well who am I kidding, there were years of stubbornness that caused a cycle of frustration because I had my mind focused on doing things my way. My thoughts were so clouded by my own ignorance that I refused to allow myself to see that I was in a pruning process, a season of preparation. It’s not that God didn’t hear my prayers or know my hearts desires concerning wanting to be a helpmeet. He heard them all very clearly but God was more concerned about shaping my character and cutting off bad relationships so when the time came to meet my husband I would be ready.
One of the things that I have noticed is that people who are single are sometimes looked down upon as if they have a plague. It sounds silly but if you have experienced this yourself, you know that if you entertain that idea long enough, it is easy for you to get caught up in thinking something is wrong with you or that you are alone. That is the farthest thing from the truth. I’m continuously reminded each day that as our Father’s children, we are never alone. God has said in His word multiple times that He will never leave us or forsake us and that He is perfecting everything that concerns us. So those times when you start feeling that you are alone, reflect on God’s word, get out of the house and spend time with friends/family or even do something new that you have always wanted to do but for whatever reason you never made the time. During this season of singleness you also want to remember to check your emotions! Sometimes we allow others to set us off into a whirlwind of emotions because we have put too many expectations on them and not enough TRUST in God. I’m not saying be cold or withdrawn towards others but I am saying don’t expect them to do for you what only God can do.
How many times have we created frustration and chaos due to the unrealistic expectations that we have placed on the people in our lives? I believe that one of the reasons we put these expectations on people is that we are trying to rush through our current season to get to our next. Some see it as their biological clock ticking away when it is actually a lack of patience that has ignited these thoughts. There are so many assignments that God has set out for you during this particular season that can only be accomplished at this time in your life. So whether it means starting a ministry or even becoming more active in your community, whatever the case may be, GET MOVING TO ACTION!! Don’t put off living your life to the fullest because you are waiting for everything to manifest when you get married. Start enjoying this season while you are on your way to your next season.
Here are a few scriptures that have encouraged me during my own season of singleness. I hope you find peace of mind and hope in them as well.
For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
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