Giving Up Is Not An Option!

 

Hey guys! I wanted to give this message of encouragement to someone that may feel like they are at their lowest point right now. You think this is the end and that your situation will never change.  This is your reminder that THIS IS NOT THE END of your story..GREATER DAYS ARE AHEAD and GIVING UP IS NOT AN OPTION.

Life can be such a rollercoaster…There are times where it is filled with disappointments, loss and heartbreak. There are also moments where we have glimpses of hope, of God’s love, protection and that His timing is beyond perfect. Maya Angelou said that “we may encounter many defeats, but we must not be defeated.”

It’s easy to allow yourself to stay down or feel pity in regards to whatever you may be going through. To wonder why these things keep happening to you or to just give up and say that you are done with life all together…BUT you are better than that. YOU ARE WORTH MORE than that and GIVING UP IS NOT AN OPTION! I know that some days are harder than others but you have to constantly remind yourself that no matter what is happening around you, that YOU WILL NOT BE DEFEATED.

I believe in you and I know you are here for a greater purpose. So no matter who gave up on you, who abandoned you and who chose walked away…This is not the end of your story! Continue pushing forward with everything that is in you because GREATER DAYS ARE AHEAD!

-De’Andrea

Run Towards Your Purpose!

What do you do when every day that you wake up, you dread going to your current job? The feeling of being unfulfilled and the swarm of anxious thoughts that fill your head as soon as you drive into the parking lot…They have you restless. Why do you feel this way and what do you do about this haunted reality that you can no longer ignore?

 

I’ll make this post short and straight to the point. The reason you’re feeling this way is because you aren’t living the life you were created to live. I’m not saying that you aren’t where you’re supposed to be in this season because sometimes we are in God’s will and He’ll make us uncomfortable for a greater purpose. However, I am saying that if every day that you wake up, you know that you aren’t pursuing what you’re passionate about, then it’s time to start doing that. It’s funny how some people say that life is short but life really isn’t that short when you’re miserable and not living the life you desire and the life you deserve.

 

I remember one day at work I was so frustrated. I was allowing everything that occurred that day, to get to me. I remember going for a walk and I started talking to God and just telling Him how frustrated I was. Then after He listened to me vent with my laundry list of complaints, He sternly said “You’re frustrated because you’re not walking in your purpose.” I couldn’t help but laugh because He was right! GOD WAS ABSOLUTLEY RIGHT! I was bringing all of this on myself because I refused to be consistent when it came to walking in my purpose. There was some fear, doubt and other things that I was allowing to hold me back and all the while God was saying…”Just Trust Me.”

 

So, my challenge for you is to stop listening to what everyone else is saying about how you should live your life and start LIVING YOUR LIFE ON YOUR OWN TERMS. Choose to wake up every single day and do at least one thing that will push you closer to your purpose. I know life can get busy and the day can go by faster than we’d like it to but if you truly desire more for your life, then you’re going to have to work for it. You’re going to have to start saying no to some people so that you can start saying yes to your purpose. People will say that you’re selfish and that you’re only thinking about yourself. That’s ok, let whoever have an opinion but don’t allow that opinion to become your reality.

 

Start looking out for your well-being and relentlessly run towards what sets your soul on fire!

~De’Andrea

The Fear of Being Great

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I remember when I was a child, I was very quiet and would often be found in the company of a good book. This awkwardly tall, wearing pink framed glasses with several braids in her hair young girl, knew she was different. I didn’t have many friends but I do remember a select few who made a positive imprint on my childhood. There was a time during those years where I tried my hardest to fit in with all of the other kids. I just wanted to be accepted and embraced by my peers and not seen as weird or unpopular. No matter what I wore, said or did, I was never truly accepted as their equal. Later on in my teen years God began to speak to me about why I never was able to fit in with my peers.

 

He shared with me that my frustration was all self-induced. That no matter how hard I tried, I would never fit in with them because He had set me apart for a greater purpose. That my longing to be accepted was actually my fear of being great! I share this small fraction of a story to remind you that you were not blessed with this life to be mediocre. We ALL have a purpose and it’s up to YOU to HEAR IT, EMBRACE IT and LIVE IT. I know that this year may have been the hardest for many but DO NOT GIVE UP. The world needs YOU and your gifts. There will be a number of things that will try to come in the way of you living your best life. The NUMBER ONE FACTOR is YOU. Many of us don’t want to face the truth..There was even a time when I didn’t want to accept “the ugly truth”. We can be our worst critics sometimes..Even most of the time. We try to talk ourselves out of moving to a new city, applying for that position, taking a chance on love and yes, even walking into our purpose.

 

At the end of the day, what other people have said or even done to you won’t matter. What WILL matter is how you learned from life’s challenges and that you in turn allowed it to be the fuel to step out of mediocrity and unapologetically walk into your purpose!

~Keep Shining~

De’Andrea

 

33..Single And Celibate

Hello readers! With my 34th birthday quickly approaching next month, I can’t help but reflect on life, relationships and decisions that have gotten me to this moment. Sure, it wasn’t always a smooth ride but I’m so happy and grateful for my journey and all that I have learned so far. As I sit here and choose to be nothing but transparent with all of you, I’m trying to pinpoint the exact moment when I made up in my mind that I was going to be celibate and single by choice.

I remember back in middle school, me and my then best friend decided to make a pact that we would remain virgins until we were married. It was one of the best decisions that I made at such a young and impressionable age. I believe it was the perfect age to make that decision, only because there was so much peer pressure even in middle school to become sexually active and to even try drugs. When I transitioned to high school, the pressure became even more evident. People that heard of this pact that I made or just by having deep conversations with me would always ask me why I chose to wait. There were several people who treated me as if I was the plague and there was something wrong with me for making that decision. Their exact words were “what are you waiting for? Just get rid of it like everyone else.”

That began to make my mind wonder because I wasn’t the most popular girl in school. Sure I had friends that were preps, hipsters, athletes and what some would call “nerds” but I was never seen as the girl that would be a guys first choice to ask to prom. I was so focused on academics, student counsel, etc. Fast forwarding to my 20’s, I was still a virgin until the age of 26. I remember feeling regret after I made that life changing decision. I definitely beat myself up about it for a while. I then chose to learn and grow from the situation..A few years later I was having a conversation with this guy I was getting to know. He understood my decision to be celibate until marriage however he like other people you will meet, decided to be very vocal about why having sex BEFORE marriage was a good idea. He stated how will you know if you’re sexually compatible with someone before you marry them, unless you take that step.

I was reminded in that moment that if someone is trying their best to convince you as to why you shouldn’t remain celibate or that you should compromise your values by either their actions or their words..Then what you have and who you are is more valuable than you know. After that conversation, a light bulb seriously came on. I finally got it! I’ve been questioned by family, associates and the like, asking me when am I going to have children. I think their biological clock is ticking faster than mine. I say the same four words time and time again..”When I get married.” I’m not here to pass judgment about anyone that chooses to have sex before they’re married. I’m here to tell my story and to say that in this era it’s not weird, crazy or delusional for anyone to choose to be celibate until marriage.

For those that have made certain decisions in the past and are still beating themselves up about it, I’m here to tell you to seriously LET IT GO. There is nothing you can do about the choices you have made in the past. All you can do is learn from it and grow because of it! Whatever you did last year, last month or yesterday does NOT make you a horrible person and does NOT define who you are! We are human, we are not perfect..We fall but it is up to us individually to get back up and say I WILL NOT BE DEFEATED. THIS IS NOT HOW MY STORY ENDS. I truly hope that my story encourages and reminds you that whatever you are facing, you a not alone in this journey called life!

 

Be A Light,

De’Andrea

 

No Greater Moment Than Now!

It’s so easy to get caught up in what people believe your life should be or how it should go. So many times we put the needs of others before ourselves and before we know it, we look up and years have passed us by. I do believe in being selfless but I don’t believe in being so selfless that you forfeit your dreams and your purpose. 

There’s no greater moment than now! Yes, things may be going on in your life and you may not feel that you’re ready to take that next step…But let me tell you this..There will ALWAYS be something going on. Distractions will ALWAYS be there..Your family will ALWAYS need you to drop what you’re doing and come to their rescue..Your job will ALWAYS have its challenges and YES LIFE WILL ALWAYS BE HAPPENING!

When will you come to your own rescue? When will you realize that you matterYour purpose matters! You’ve survived this far for a reason and no one can fulfill your destiny but you! So as you go about your day today, remember that GREATNESS IS INSIDE OF YOU! Be BOLD..Be FEARLESS…Be RELENTLESS in PURSUING YOUR PURPOSE!



~De’Andrea Reese

Dating With A Purpose

 When was the last time you dated with a purpose? Sure you have to get to know someone and your initial connection may be based simply off of looks or a mutual interest BUT WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE INITIAL ATTRACTION ISN’T ENOUGH? What do you do when you notice that the only thing that person is inviting in your life is drama or just an unexplainable void. Do you continue to pursue what “might” be the potential of a person or do you recognize the reality of the situation and go your separate ways?

 

The other day I was thinking about why our society is so focused on staying up to date with the latest fashion and technology however people are still dating and dealing with their own lives carelessly. When did we reach a point to where we value material things more than we do our own wellbeing? Why do some people date haphazardly? Why waste time when it comes to dating someone once you realize that the connection is toxic? Is it because there are feelings of loneliness and you long for companionship no matter what values you might be compromising or is it because you just have to have someone in your space or be in a relationship no matter the circumstance?

 

I ask these questions not to point the finger but for you to reflect on your own life and ask yourself is this something that you can relate to. As I always say, know your worth and don’t settle out of the fear of being by yourself. If you are single, use this time to find your purpose and go after it! If you are dating someone and you know they aren’t the one for you, don’t string them along. Be honest with them and be honest with yourself and let them know how you feel. You don’t want to waste your time or theirs. 

~De’Andrea